If you find yourself in love with someone
who does not love you, be gentle with yourself.
There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn’t choose
to rest in the other person’s heart.
If you find someone else in love with you and
you don’t love him/her, feel honored that love came and
called at your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return, do
not take advantage, do not cause pain.
How you deal with love is how you deal with you,
and all our hearts feel the same pains and joys, even
if our lives and ways are different.
If you fall in love with another, and he/she falls in
love with you, and then love chooses to leave, do not try
to reclaim it or to assess blame, let it go.
There is a reason and there is a meaning.
You will know in time .
Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you.
Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit.
Give it to the world around you in anyway you can.
There is where many lovers go wrong.
Having been so long without love, they understand
love only as a need.
They see their hearts as empty places
that will be filled by love, and they begin to look at love as something
that flows to them rather than from them.
The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing,
but as their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as need.
They cease to be someone who generates love and instead become someone
who seeks love.
They forget that the secret of love is
that it is a gift, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away.
Remember this, and keep it to your heart. Love has
its own time, its own seasons, and its own reason for
coming and going.
You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason
it into saying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it
away when it comes to you.
But if it chooses to leave from your
heart or from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do
and there is nothing you should do.
Love has always been and will always be a mystery.
Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life.